our approach
Everyone wants to have a loving, trusting relationship but why do so many of us struggle in this area? Are most of us really taught….
How to relationship?
How to build lasting intimacy and trust?
How to communicate safely with each other?
How to navigate through childhood (and adult) trauma/wounding & show up in healthy ways?
How to become each other’s biggest support?
How to bring in joy, fun and play?
We want to support you in learning how to relationship by focusing on the 3 pillars of a fulfilling and nourishing relationship…
our approach is to focus on the 3 pillars of a happy relationship
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pillar 1: understanding your stories
Creating a coherent narrative.
When you understand your partner’s story you are less likely to create stories (often fueled by historical wounds and traumas that are not based in reality) .i.e. “When I offer suggestions he usually says no and I create the story that he doesn’t care.” But, if you understood his story you might discover that he wasn’t allowed to say no as a kid and now as an adult it’s become his default. Understanding your own story allows you to have awareness about what triggers you and why. Then you can safely navigate through the triggers rather than being reactive to your partner.
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pillar 2: healthy communication
Let’s talk about it.
In order to understand each other’s story you have to communicate with each other. HOW we talk to each other can make or break a relationship. Talking in a healthy way creates a safe space in which your partner can really hear you.
Tips on healthy communication: stick to the facts, share how you feel, speak from the “I” statement, and when things get heated, take a break until you’ve both calmed down.
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pillar 3: becoming self responsible for your own emotions
When you feel you heal.
Tolerating difficult emotions and sitting through the discomfort is the cornerstone to deep and lasting transformation for you personally and for your relationship. Without this pillar, couples unwittingly puts the band aid on the problem but don’t get to the root of the issues. The rewards of doing this inner work is deepening trust, intimacy, connection and developing a fulfilling and nourishing relationship.
the 3 magic sauces for success:
receiving support. commitment. willingness.
Knowing the 3 pillars alone isn’t going to change your relationship. The practices are simple but we’re gonna be real with you— implementing them without support is nearly impossible!
Getting consistent support via coaching and supervision is essential for a couple’s success on their road to creating an intimate, fulfilling relationship!
Committing to each other and to the healing process.
Being willing to do the work over a period of time: it will take the time it takes. After all Rome wasn’t built in a day!
